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Many of you know my book Glaen: A Novel Message on Romance, Love, and Relating came out this year.  As a special promotion, the EBOOK is available for FREE until January 9, 2011.  This special promotion gets you in line for the free Small Group Study that accompanies the book.  Of course, the hope is to get the ‘buzz’ to pick up even more for the book…and to get small groups using the material.  Glaen is a novel that takes on a Christian re-thinking of dating, courting, relating, and marriage…in the format of a novel.

Here is a note I received this week:

Hi, Mr. Lybrand!I actually finished Glaen the first day I started it! I believe I finished it in about 2 hours or so. I took notes, re-read it again a day or so later, and will re-read it yet again soon. I loved it.I loved the method for finding deep truths, even if they aren’t that incredibly hard to think of or understand. I gave a mini teaching of it/ discussion with my girls (youth group girls that I’m partly in charge of mentoring and leading) at 3:00am on New Year’s morning. (We were having a sleepover.)The next day when we were having lunch at Culver’s, I noticed that some of the girls at a table near me were having an argument on a tough subject that was bringing frustration and not really cutting to some of the core of the issue. I put to use many of the truths from your book, and the argument was resolved. Mostly what was needed were “just definitions” and a bit of love. I had been learning just before reading this book that I needed to know the exact truth opposite of the lies. Knowing the lies themselves isn’t good enough. This was a huge help! When I thought about it, it was as if I had known these truths in part, but since I couldn’t define them for myself, I couldn’t particularly focus on living them out better, or pray for help on living it.

I have seriously seen a change in myself since reading this book, and I can’t wait to see the change in others. I am so excited about learning more and more truths, now and all throughout the rest of my life!

Thank you!

Blessings,

~ Rachel E. Payauys

Honestly, there are just a few days left…so please go to the site www.glaen.com and sign up.

Also, feel free to pass this along.

God bless,

Fred Lybrand

www.glaen.com

P.S.  Most of all…I’d like your feedback after you’ve read it!

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The Seven Fatal Mistakes of Dating

This is part of 7 blogs through which I want to introduce you to the fatal mistakes in dating that GLAEN introduces to the reader.  If you have a friend or an older child who is making mistakes (or wants to date with a little more wisdom), then these videos are for you to share far-and-wide.  I’d also love your comments…and go get a copy of GLAEN at your local bookstore, amazon, or www.glaen.com

FATAL DATING MISTAKE #7

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The Seven Fatal Mistakes of Dating

This is part of 7 blogs through which I want to introduce you to the fatal mistakes in dating that GLAEN introduces to the reader.  If you have a friend or an older child who is making mistakes (or wants to date with a little more wisdom), then these videos are for you to share far-and-wide.  I’d also love your comments…and go get a copy of GLAEN at your local bookstore, amazon, or www.glaen.com

FATAL DATING MISTAKE #6

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The Seven Fatal Mistakes of Dating

This is part of 7 blogs through which I want to introduce you to the fatal mistakes in dating that GLAEN introduces to the reader.  If you have a friend or an older child who is making mistakes (or wants to date with a little more wisdom), then these videos are for you to share far-and-wide.  I’d also love your comments…and go get a copy of GLAEN at your local bookstore, amazon, or www.glaen.com

FATAL DATING MISTAKE # 3

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Greetings,

One of the essentials explored in GLAEN is about the two things you need for a complete love relationship.  Now, I know there are arranged marriages around the world that work just fine…but I’m talking about when you decide, make a choice, commit.  Also, some of you reading this just need to tuck the info away for ‘someday’— if you are not about to get married, then you are being a little silly working on it now.  Let’s face it, you don’t study for your finals at the beginning of the semester, do you?

But, when it’s time, how do you know it’s the right one?  Well, credit to Robert Fritz especially, but a relationship needs two thing:

1.  Chemistry

2.  Basis

I remember Josh McDowell used to say that you shouldn’t marry someone you can live with, but someone you can’t live without.  Well, that could overstate it, but you really should LIKE the other person.  You should be attracted.  They should ‘do it’ for you— you know, be someone who doesn’t totally gross you out!  CHEMISTRY, however, isn’t the whole ball of wax.  In fact, isn’t that what most people do…obsess on someone they find exciting?  You know, if all you have is chemistry, then love will be misunderstood as simply the feelings of a moment.  Chemistry alone will just tempt you to move from person-to-person.  And, frankly, there’s nothing lasting in that! [Warning…I believe if the chemistry is too much, meaning you completely lose your mind  and would do anything to get their love, then it really IS NOT a match.  In this situation the chemistry is a home-made bomb that will likely never let you be your true self on the way to blowing everything up!  For a sad example see the story of a lady getting surgery to look like Jessica Alba to win back her boyfriend]

The second thing you need to know for a Great Love Affair (again, when it is time for one) is BASIS.

The basis for a relationship has to do with Building a Life together.  A basis is about things like values and worldview.  What matter to you?  Do you want to live in the country or a city?  Big town or little town?  What are your religious beliefs?  What about having children?  How about standards of living, job commitments, etc.?  These are really questions about deal-killers.  Face it, if you are a committed Christian then marrying an Islamic Fundamentalist or an Atheist probably isn’t going to work.  How could it?

Those may sound like extremes, but here’s a simple insight for you:

If it is something that is so important to you that you won’t compromise, then it is a deal-killer.

Of course, why build a life of compromise?  Why not find someone with whom you have both chemistry and basis?  Look, you get who you get…and trying to change them is the last thing they want from you!

To learn more….Read GLAEN

Blessings,

Fred Lybrand

P.S. Amazon starts shipping GLAEN on February 16, 2009

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